James Ratcliffe - A Loving Tribute

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James / From: V 2/11/2006 - - I just miss you, thats all. Sometimes I get so mad and sad and I don't understand why it had to be this way. I hope you can still see us all, even though we cant see you. big kisses and hugs james.

Jimmy / From: Peter, Eddie, Greg & Carl 2/18/2006 - - Raising a glass to you Jimmy,,, Every get together we have you're always with the boys.... We love you and miss you and we'll see you on the other side! FF Peter M wishes you were here so he could shave your legs - Ha Ha - Rest in peace Jimmy.

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 2/20/2006 - - We are deeply saddened to be reminded of the fragility of life by a recent tragic death of a local teen. Events like this, where someone dies so young, bring us big steps backwards in our own journey. We count ourselves as extremely fortunate that every part of James' death was the consequence of noble, intelligent and well intended actions, serving a fine community as part of a well planned and extremely well lived life. We will miss James every minute for the rest of our lives, but are immensely proud of the way James lived and unfortunately died. There are simply no answers or comfort we can expect to find to the "why?" questions we often ask ourselves. Our acceptance of a fickle universe's sometimes cruel twists and turns comes very hard, but inevitably we must find the ways to accept the reality that we are not destined to know why some things happen. I said countless times in fatherly advice to James: "Life's not fair, get used to it and get on with it", never expecting to be so challenged to live by my own advice. Every minute with James was, above anything else, entertaining, happy, fun and special, and every memory we have is wonderful. Memories of those twenty exceptional years are all we have left, thankfully they are all incredibly positive and warm or we would likely be much more lost. James was above anything else a happy loving son who constantly made us laugh. These past few have been long tough months for us. The reality of this saddness continues to seep so deeply into us. Enjoyment and laughter that once came so easily in our lives is rare and takes real effort. Simply put, we are no longer able to find a truly comfortable place on this planet where this loss doesn't bring sadness and loneliness to us. We seek to find the strength to live with that discomfort for hopefully a very long time to come and somehow learn to enjoy happiness and to someday laugh easily again. We are often exhausted at the effort it takes, but have found strength we never expected. We are so blessed wih Jessica, another perfect child, who lives a fun and happy but also well planned and well intentioned life with great success. Our hopes and dreams for her future leaves us with a truly bright and happy future for ourselves. to participate in. We continue to be truly blessed and overwhelmed with the attention and support of so many caring friends who have helped by sharing our loss. This is destined to be the longest hardest walk a parent can travel, on an uncharted path we would never have chosen. But life chose this journey for us. Those who take the time to walk with us for any part of that journey with us, large or small, make it easier. So thank you all for taking the time you do. Stay well and please try to make sure that every memory you will eventually leave behind in your own lives is positive and happy. It does absolutely make a difference. If there may be no sure tomorrow, then please make sure that today is somehow truly special.

The Ratcliffes / From: Jenn W. 2/24/2006 - - Just passing along and read your recent entry Mr. Ratcliffe. I thought of your family when I heard of Stevie Riley's unfortunate death, and I just wanted to say that I, along with my family, think of you often. We hope you are doing well despite the obvious and that you continue to inspire us with your words of wisdom. Hugs to you all! ~ Jenn

James and Family / From: an old friend 2/26/2006 - - Another amazing message made by Peter Ratcliffe.....how do you do it? None of us will ever know how your family keeps so strong while still grieving over the loss of James. You are a role model for everyone. I honeslty hope that you will be blessed when a day will eventually come when you can easily laugh and celebrate the life of James. And to James - even though we didn't talk that much after high school it is incredible how much I miss you and think of you. I still see you in my dreams sometimes, though not as much as I did last summer. Everyone misses you James....... see you in my dreams. xxoo

Friends & Family of James / From: Homer 2/28/2006 - - Hey all, sorry to report that I was having some issues with the server and thus lost 1 or 2 messages. I am trying to get a backup so that I can restore them, but as of now they are lost in cyber-space. Sorry Peter!!!

Hudson Fire Department & Ratcliffe family / From: Braidwood Fire Fighter/EMT Bolatto 3/1/2006 - - I am truley sorry for your loss. I am the sam age and am truely touched by this young man. He is an inspiration to all of the younger generation at our department.

The Ratcliffe Family / From: The Wright Family 3/5/2006 - - Just thinking of all of you and your family at this time and so wishing that the hands of time could be turned back. However, we all know that is impossible. Our family, however, think of you daily and hope that you are all able to begin to move forward and know your friends and the community at large are there to be your safety net, should you feel the ned to fall. You will ALWAYS be in our thoughts and the thoughts of everyone in this town. Stay brave.

James / From: Lisa 3/9/2006 - - Dear James, I miss you. I knew when you passed that I was extremely lucky because there was nothing unsaid between us. But, as the months pass, and the memories randomly flood back, I realize there was so much that you couldn't have known how grateful I was for. So, thanks for sneaking me lemonups from the bar, tutoring me in Chemistry, being my cool older friend when I came to HHS, talking me through my first break up, having lunch with me every friday my first year at Abbott, and being one of the many big brothers I inherited upon my entrance into the extended Dickison family... thanks for ALWAYS making me feel special, every smile and laugh, every fight and debate. I loved fighting with you. I miss your prescence more than you can imagine. I waited for you that monday night at the bar, we all did, and we will always be waiting for you now. I think of you every day, speak of you to everyone who never had the priviledge of knowing you, and I attempt to emmulate your spirit and honor in every aspect of my life. You always were, and will continue to be, one of my most cherished role models, big brothers, and friends... thank you for being there. I can't wait to see you again. Love always, Lisa.

Diane, Peter, & Jessica / From: Linda McPhee-Zambom 3/21/2006 - - Memories are the key not to the past, but to the future. Thinking of you on this special day. Linda

James / From: Madison 3/22/2006 - - Raising a glass for you today, remembering how you always managed to keep your good eye open, hahaha! I still miss you man, we all do, and we're all thinking of you.

Diane, Peter and Jessica / From: Alison 3/22/2006 - - Not a day goes by that I haven't thought of James. Today, especially, there are many wonderful memories. Please continue to find whatever strength you can from knowing that so many of your friends and family are thinking of you. With my love and deep hugs, Alison

James / From: Matt O'Grady 3/22/2006 - - thinking fo you on this day, never can i forget the times we had on eachothers birthdays...if it was either bowling or screaming out loud calling people Jolly Ranchers at Clyde's. i'll forever miss you buddy. i think about you every day and i wish that on this day, i was able to give u a hug. always in my thoughts. matt.

James / From: Steph Gobeil 3/22/2006 - - It has been a long time since I have written to you on this site. I have been on it many times to read all the memories that different people have with you. It has helped me to remember more and more of the amazing memories that I have with you as well. Today especially I thought of you and I hope that your parents and your sister know that we think of them all the time. You always tried so hard to make sure that everyone celebrated their special days to the fullest, I remember when I had my 21st birthday party, and you were there to share it with me. You and Trevor also took great care of my little brother and making sure that he had an amazing 18th Birthday. You guys know what I mean. So I want you to know that we are all thinking of you on your special day and that we miss you more than ever. Love Always, Steph

James / From: Robyn Gurr 3/22/2006 - - You're always in my thoughts... Thanks for making everyones lives so much better by being part of it. I Miss You & I will think of you more today... I'll see you again...

James / From: Flip 3/22/2006 - - Hey James, It's been a while since I've written to you. I've tried a couple of times but I couldn't seem to think of the right things to say. I've been thinking about you alot today, your birthday. Even though I always wish this, today more than ever I wish I could give u a hug. I know I'm not alone in wanting that, which is why I also would like to let your familly know that I am thinking of them. I'm not sure how this place compares to where u are now, but I still wanted to send you a happy birthday from home. So happy birthday James. I miss you so much. With Love, Flippy

Peter, Diane, and Jess / From: Homer P & Family 3/22/2006 - - On this day as in many others you're in our thoughts and prayers.

Peter, Diane and Jess / From: The Cassidys 3/22/2006 - - Dear Peter, Diane and Jessica: March 22,2006 James is never far from any of our thoughts, we remember him everyday but especially to-day. There are no words that will make the heartaches any easier but you have to know that as your friends we share in your grief and only wish that we could help lift your burden. To-day we look back and remember the many fun times the boys had and that we had together as families and we remember what a wonderful young man James was. We are grateful for his life even though it was cut short way too soon. Our thoughts are with you. Love Brenda, Keith, Sean, Trevor and Geoff

The Ratcliffes and friends / From: Lex 3/22/2006 - - I have been thinking about you all a lot lately. Last year when some Hudson boys came to Ottawa to celebrate his birthday, we all had a blast. I know you would have given him a great one this year too. My thoughts are with all of you, I wish you well.

James / From: McG 3/22/2006 - - Big hug for you James. Miss you always, but smile for you more! Love you Jim.

James / From: Jenn W. 3/22/2006 - - Happy 21st birthday James... wish you were here! xoxoxo

James / From: Mrs. McNally 3/22/2006 - - Mrs. McNally always sounds so serious to me, but that is what you called me. I just want you to know that every time that I walk into the hall at the HYC I look up at the balcony and smile. IHappy Birthday James,

James / From: Unknown 3/23/2006 - - HAPPY BIRTHDAY JAMES shots were had for you i know im an hour and fifteen minutes late but i havent had access to a computer all day/night I just wish you couldve been there to celebrate with us tonite you are always among us and we will never forget you see you soon bud-e

James / From: Al 3/23/2006 - - Happy Birthday James, we are all missing you alot. love you bud.

James / From: James Tchamourian 3/23/2006 - - Hey buddy. It's been too long since I have written you and for that I apologize. I think it was trying to find the right words to say which kept me from doing so...I just wanted to wish you a Happy 21st Birthday. Hudson is doing the best we can to cope, but we will never forget. Please continue to watch over your family and close friends with a guiding hand.

James / From: A friend 3/23/2006 - - Happy 21st Birthday James. What I wouldn't give to be able to see your smile today... I miss you James, I know you're watching out for everyone. To the many amazing memories, cheers! See you.

James / From: An Old Friend 3/24/2006 - - Hi James, I haven't written to you yet mostly because I didn't know what to say, but today I found myself on your website and spent two hours reading all the wonderful messages left by your friends, family and others. Tears were rolling down my cheeks while I read what people had to say about you and I began thinking of how you have influenced so many friends, and mine as well. Thank You. I've known you since we were kids, our path crossed many times and it will again. With fondness...

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 3/24/2006 - - When we parents bring a child into the world we spend our days in dreaming, hoping, wonder and worry about what the future will bring for our children. A twenty-first birthday seems to be the goal of many parents when our children become truly responsible for themselves and they become an equal adult in the eyes of the world. In fact, James earned the right to be considered our equal long ago, he took responsibility for his own life extremely well, and there was little we needed to add as his parents. James enjoyed his life daily and yet James did all the hard work of his own life himself. James got rewarded for that hard work over and over. As I re-read the entries you’ve written in this guest book I know that while James’ future was tragically cut short, it was incredibly rich. There are several very common words mentioned over and over in the memories he left behind with you. His smile truly set him apart, just look at the pictures and you know he was filled with happiness and love. So many wish they could hug him again, James was a huggable loving child who comfortably relaxed into whoever was holding him. James shared his love for others openly, a lesson he learned from us well. Many of you respect the advice he gave, or the caring he showed for others problems. James actually thought about life and pondered the choices he had to make, rather than simply letting life decide his path for him and taking whatever came by. The good times James shared with so many friends is another common theme, and there were so many friends and countless good times. James showed us that it is important and possible to enjoy the life you have today, while you can, but in balance with your life goals for a long future. Respect for others is another common theme in your messages; you can never go wrong with showing people respect if they deserve it. James had little patience for those who didn’t deserve respect, but he looked for the good in everyone first, never assumed anything in advance. James had by any measure of a man, a truly successful life. Many cared about James because he was actually interested and involved not just in his own life, but in the lives of those around him. James wanted to make the world a better place for not just himself but for everyone. Apparently he has for many of you, many of whom are changing direction and pace in their own lives by the lessons of James’ life. So today, in my grief filled reflection on James life as one shining example of doing a life successfully with purpose and reward, I ask each of you to consider how you will choose to have your own lives remembered. It is in fact your own choices that you make ach and every day that will determine the value you build in your own life, both while living and after you’re gone. Will so many people remember your smile, your hug, your laugh, your friendship, the good times you shared? The choices you can make as you live today and each day to come can build your own life’s value into something truly worth living and worth remembering by many forever. Those who make mostly bad choices or simply don’t apply themselves to living are generally pretty forgettable; it is right that they simply shouldn’t hold our interest for long. It is too obvious that we have no idea how many days we will have left, so a wise person might choose to build their life into something valuable and truly memorable each and every day starting today one small step at a time. Thank you all for caring and sharing your many feelings and thoughts, confirming again for us that James was every bit as memorable as we always knew he was.

James / From: Steve 3/25/2006 - - Hey buddy. I'm just sitting here and I thought that I should write a message. Sorry I didn't wirte on your b-day, but don't worry I didn't forget like I did McGrath's (he was pretty angry). It's coming to that time of year where we start organising the bar. You should see it man, it looks great. We managed to pull it together in the end last summer and you'd be proud of of how Jimmy's Crew did. I look forward to this summer because the HYC bar is where I feel closest to you. Everytime I look in the corner and see the framed picture of you, I know that you are watching over us. Well, I miss you buddy. Have a beer for me up there. Oh and one more thing, I still think about all your cheesy haunted HYC stories. You better not freak me out this summer ( do it to Tron though).

The Ratcliffe family / From: Adam 3/28/2006 - - It has been a long time since I have visited James' website. I suppose it is partially because I have not yet come to terms with anything and I find myself with not much else to say. I want you to know that I think about James everyday and how he has affected my life tremendously, in life and in death. May peace and happiness be with you Peter, Diane and Jessica.

Diane / From: Pat 4/6/2006 - - Saw the web site for the first time. Should have waited a few days.My heart aches. This is the poem we were talking about: When i Must Leave You : by,Helen Steiner Rice When I must leave you for a little while, Please do not grieve and shed wild tears and hug your sorrow to you through the years, But start out bravely with a gallant smile; And for my sake and in my name Live on and do all things the same, Feed not your loneliness on empty days, But fill each waking hour in useful ways, Reach out your hand in comfort and in cheer And I in turn will comfort you and hold you near; And never,never be afraid to die, For I am waiting for you in the sky! Love to Peter and Jessica. See you soon. Love Pat P.S. We will all be together in the blink of an eye.

Jessica / From: Mrs. shaar 4/7/2006 - - Happy Birthday Jessica. Wishing you health, happiness, and strength, Love Mrs. Shaar

James / From: FF Dawn C. 5/7/2006 - - Not knowing what to say has been the primary reason I visit your site often but don't end up writing anything. Today (on a positive note) I feel like saying thank you! I knew today that you were around spiritually when the HFD team needed you to be and for that I am grateful. I am sure that like me, there are others who have stopped to say "that must have been James." Whether it be a sense of good luck, a sense of confidence or simply an unexplained smile; we should all stop to say thanks James for continuing to look out for me. So today, I say thank you and may everyone find their 'thank you James' moments....Dawn

James / From: ls 5/14/2006 - - I read this beautiful poem today.It is,i believe,the first poem ever published by Leonard Cohen,and it made me think of you,James,as we all often do. ELEGY Do not look for him In brittle mountain streams: They are too cold for any god; And do not examine the angry rivers for shreds of his soft body Or turn the shore stones for his blood: But in the warm salt ocean He is descending through cliffs Of slow green water And the hovering coloured fish Kiss his snow-bruised body And build their secret nests In his fluttering winding-sheet.

James / From: Greg Lothian 5/16/2006 - - Hi James, It has almost been 1 year and yet I think of you each day. It has been a difficult year in many ways. Some days I wish I had the strength you had. The ability to be as you are to me. You give me strength those days that I need more than what I have inside myself. I miss you.

Jassica, Daine & Peter / From: Greg Lothian 5/16/2006 - - It has been a while since I stopped by to visit. I think of you often. I'm am still at a loss for words. There will forever be a place in my heart for you all. I'll be by soon, I promise

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 5/16/2006 - - There is no need for words if you can’t find them, come and share silence if you have no words to describe your pain. Simply bring your hearts and thoughts together in small quiet groups, share your pain and help heal each other one minute at a time. In order to live well again, every wound must be cared for and healed completely lest it be allowed to fester and cause any further destruction. This wound of James’ death will leave a scar on each of us, no doubt about that. Bear these scars proudly, openly and without hiding then from each other, there is no shame in the human pain or scars of this loss. We humans ultimately become the sum total of everything that we have experienced and survived. James’ death has given us each the opportunity to hurt more than we imagined possible and then to search for the strength we never knew we had inside to heal each other and ourselves. If we heal well as friends, family and community, we will become stronger even as we walk each day limping proudly with this newfound appreciation for the frailty of life. The choices we make from here forward will be important, so make good choices to enjoy each day. James was kind, gentle, caring and very sensitive to the pain of others. James would be disappointed if his accidental death were allowed to eat deeper into any of you or become an excuse in your lives causing any further damage or pain. I do believe that there is a Heaven where we will each proudly meet James again. James will be proud of those that found a way to walk this most difficult walk bending at times but never breaking and ending up stronger in the end. Knowing James I expect he will hold any slackers fully accountable. No sense in risking that, is there?

The ratcliffe Family / From: Doug Seagrim 5/16/2006 - - When I was 18, my brother Roy was killed in a boating accident. He was 20. My parents did not know how to handle this loss. Consequently, they did not acknowledge it in any way. To this day, 42 years later it is still difficult for me to handle emotionally. I admire and respect the way that you are dealing with this tragic loss. I only hope that you will hold together and be strong as it is the only way to go. Jessica, I do not know you but hope that this grief and loss will be shared with you as it was not with me.

Everyone / From: Nanou 5/16/2006 - - So many things happen in life that no one really understands. Little things, big things, life changing things ... I really don't know how to explain it. I have only met James a few times through the fire dept., and all I can remember is this really dedicated person that loved life to the fullest. My fiancee is a firefighter also and from what I hear from him, James was really awesome. I can only offer everyone my sincere condolences and prayers of love, comfort and healing. Here is a song from The Ladder 49 Soundtrack that is very dear to my heart ... The cry of the city like a siren song Wailing over the roof tops, the whole night long I saw a shooting star like a diamond in the sky It must be someone's soul passing by These are the streets where we used to run and where your papa's from These are the days where you become what you become These are the streets where the stories are told and the truth unfolds Darkness settles in... Shine your light down on me LIft me up so I can see Shine your light when your're gone Give me the strenght to carry on No wonnabe hero just and everyday man Trying to do the job the very best he can But now it's like living up the old times Out on the rim and over the line Always tempting faith like a game of chance Never wants to stick around until th every last dance Sometimes we stumble and take a hard fall Loose hold your grip off the wall Shines your light down on me Lift me up so I can see Shine your light when you're gone Give me the strength to carry on I thought I saw him walking by the side of the road Maybe he's trying to find his way home He's here but not here He's gone but not gone Just hope you know if I get lost... Shine your light down on me Lift me up so I can see Shine your light when you're gone Give me the strength to carry on

James / From: Lorelei 6/1/2006 - - I remember my first day of grade 7, you were in my homeroom, and when you walked in, I thought you were one of the most beautiful people I had ever seen. I immediately had a crush on you, and asked you where my first class was... Took a chance to talk to you any time I could. I felt cool, talking to be a big grade 8er and all. :) Little did I know that day just how beautiful of a person you really were. Over the years, my respect for you grew with every passing day. Not to mention my crush.....haha. Every leadership camp, every basketball game, every fight we'd have in the caf at Abbott... How you were disgusted with my eggburger obsession. How you thought I puked in your hottub. The night Lisa ran over a raccoon and it smelled up the entire HYC. Good times at Mont St Anne...... Man I would get so frustrated when we argued all the time.. I knew you were right but I never wanted to admit it. It made me so angry. But now all those fights do is bring a smile to my face.... In only a few short days, it'll be a year that you've been gone. I still find myself struggling to believe that the whole thing is real. I don't know if it'll ever feel that way.... I don't know if I'll ever be at peace with the way we were when you passed. I mean you and I ALWAYS fought but most of the time it was for jokes. Except that last time we spoke where we actually left angry enough with each other that we didn't speak afterwards. I can't help but blame myself for the way our friendship had turned. You appeared in my dream that night shortly after your death to tell me it was all okay.... I thought you had come down as an angel to heal the pain I was feeling.... But I can't help but think that it may just be my conscience trying to lay it to rest. I think for that reason I refuse to believe that this has all really happened. It just doesn't seem fair. In times like these, I wish I had the strength that you had every day of your life. I think about you every day, James, I really miss you. These next few days are going to be really hard on everyone, especially your folks. I don't doubt that you will be watching, taking extra special care for your friends in this time, as our guardian angel. I can't bring myself to say goodbye, so... I'll see you up there man. Save me a good seat. Love you. Rest in peace....

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 6/2/2006 - - We know that these are very tough weeks for each of us. The CSST report is one of the most difficult tasks our family has experienced, one of the truly impossible things to fathom the full impact of ahead of time. We have waited long and patiently for the facts, so our reaction could be absolutely correct just once. …. We now know now, without a doubt, that this was a truly preventable death……. I often spoke to James about my greatest fear, as a parent, what I always called the “Blinding Moment of Stupidity” that kills far too many young people. I always told him that it could be either his own or a friend’s Blinding Moment of Stupidity that could be fatal. I never imagined that I would have to adjust to the reality of such an event……….. A dear friend told me once “Never attribute to malice what can be simply attributed to ignorance”. I don’t have the hatred in my heart or energy left to blame any one or few souls and destroy any further those lives already damaged. My heart is broken and empty enough now, adding hatred would be a bitter pill to swallow………… I will have to work hard and long to find the very thing that defines each of us as truly good humans, forgiveness…. Please recognize that this will be a long journey for all of us. I now find myself tremendously disappointed, and we have a documented right to be angry now, even though anger still comes so hard for me….. One no knows that had better training and planning been in place, we would not have to face the consequences of this unacceptable death. I choose to hold the entire structure and organization fully accountable not any one individual, although there were clearly individual failures. The organization that failed must understand this failure and must change to avoid another.……… To those who feel they bear any personal responsibility, I know your lives are very tough now too, but please remember that our family has the toughest task of all as we accept the failings of others to protect James’ life. We do not wish to see further destruction of the human spirit if we can avoid it. …. Now, you must each go through the rest of your lives being so much better, so much safer and so much more diligent than ever before. There is no longer any room for an error in judgment or another Blinding Moment of Stupidity ……. You must work harder than ever to prove again and again your worth to those around you and especially to yourselves. Another preventable accident on your watch must never happen; as it would prove without a doubt that you were unable to learn from your failures and therefore not worthy of forgiveness….. Put simply, the town, the firefighters and the individuals must first seek and then prove themselves worthy of forgiveness; you must know that our loss came at far too high a price for this to be given freely or easily. After a year the wound is now infected and larger than ever, so we must all heal now; and we should all work together to make that happen. This is the task our lives have chosen for us and it may define or destroy each of us. Let’s make the right choices and continue to be good people, so many are watching our community closely now

Jimmy / From: Carolyn C 6/3/2006 - - I miss you jimmy, it has almost been a year to the day and not one hour has gone by without a thought of you. you have left an ever lingering void in so many peoples lives that will forever be unreplaced. You are one in a Billion and I am still left with emotions that only you could explin to me how to handle!! :)just wanted to say a little note to you and your family saying that I love you and miss you all and that I will be by next week. Rest in Peace James ...

Jimmy / From: Trev 6/5/2006 - - Well Jimmy, it’s almost been a year buddy. I thought for sure that it would get easier as time passed, but it really hasn’t. We are all trying our best to get through every day, but it’s hard when you’re so used to a guy like James Ratcliffe being around. I’m sitting here Jimmy, on the eve of my birthday. Thinking about a year ago when I was lucky enough to sit down and drink a beer that you had bought me for my birthday. You were mad that you couldn’t make it out with me the night before, but that didn’t bother me. Just sitting there, talking and having a beer was all that I needed. It hurts to think that I won’t be able to do that again this year. It just won’t be the same without you buddy, and I’m sure it never will. I never would have thought that I would be celebrating my 21 birthday without you. There hasn’t been a day that’s gone by, where I haven’t thought of you. It makes it easier though, that all the memories that I have of you are positive ones. You lived life to the fullest, and you let me tag along for the ride. I thank you for that buddy. I miss you a lot bud, take care.

James / From: Flip 6/5/2006 - - It's the day before your one year anniversary, and I can`t believe a year has passed. I never know what to say on this site, because it seems like everything I think of just doesn`t do you any justice. For some reason, recently, I`ve been remembering all these little things you`ve taught me , or just small traits that I picked up from you, and as much as it makes me sad, it makes me so happy that I get to keep some of you with me all the time. People like you only come around so often , and I'm just so happy that I got to meet you those 18 years or so ago. I was lucky then to have met you, and I'm still lucky today. I can't tell you enough how much I miss you. Talk to you soon. All my love. Flip xx

James / From: Katie 6/5/2006 - - I called the Yacht Club one day to speak to my mom, and on the other end of the phone answered this smiling voice...I knew it was you James. If I had known that would be the last time that I would speak to you, maybe I would have said something different. Or maybe not...we exchanged hellos, joked for a few minutes....and then you wished me well, said I'll see you soon, and that was the end of our conversation. I remember when I reached my mom saying how kind you were....you meant everything you said, you really were happy to speak to me, and you were genuine when you asked me how I was doing. That kind of person is so hard to find....and yet there you were right in front of us. I, like everyone else, miss you every day, I really do. Your family and friends miss you too....but you know that. Tomorrow we'll celebrate your life, because that's what you would have wanted. Can't promise you there won't be any tears though....! Here's to a beautiful soul, a beautiful person who had a beautiful smile. K xxx

James / From: Cari 6/5/2006 - - Thanks James for giving me strength in my times of need. I think of you always and miss your hugs. Love Cari

James / From: Lisa 6/5/2006 - - Missing you. You know I love you, you always knew I did. The YC has changed without you, as everyone has. I will spend tomorow thankful for the last days we were able to share together, for all the lessons you taught me, and happy that I never hid my admiration for you. I miss you much more today than I did one year ago. Rest in peace.

James / From: Jenna 6/6/2006 - - James, I know today we will celebrate you. For those that knew you well, they will be able to smile and remember the cherished moments they shared with you. For those that know only your story, a story that has forever changed the lives of many, we will remember just how valuable our time is and how extrodinary people like you were walking among us. James I can't help but have a tear in my eye and a smile on my face when I look at your picture. You had such a great smile, I am sorry I never realized it sooner. You have done more for me then you'll ever know and for that I want to thank you. I know you will continue to inspire us and protect us. You, your family, those that you loved and loved you are in my thoughts and my heart. Especially today James. Cheers James, when I see you next, the first round's on me.

James, Family and Friends / From: Alison T. 6/6/2006 - - The following, Desiderata, was written many centuries ago. I have read it many times over the years but it seems to now hold a special place in my heart as I think of James and all of us who loved him so much. Please take time to read this as it holds many thoughts that have James' spirit written all over them. Rest in peace James and keep smiling down on us! Go placidly amid the noise & haste, & remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly & clearly; and listen to others, even the dull & ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud & aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain & bitter; for always there will be greater & lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity & disenchantment it is perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue & loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees & the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labours & aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery & broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be careful. Strive to be happy.

James / From: Caitlyn Milot 6/6/2006 - - Dear James, This message has been sitting in my room now for a year, it was written four days after June 6th, 2005 and I think it is time I let you hear it. If it is a little all over the place, it is just because I was trying to collect my thoughts and let all that I was feeling out at the same time this time last year. This is one of these letters that I guess you wish you had said earlier on, but never quite got around to it. These past few days have been such a learning experiece for me, and I realized, in some way, this is just your leadership shinning through one more time, allowing me to realize these things. You were always such a wonderful leader in what you wanted to do, but more importantly, a team player and member. Thanks for being close to my dad and making him happy just from being on the team. You sometimes don't realize how much you miss a person until they are not there. I am slowly learning this lesson. But I know you will be here, in our hearts, our minds, our love, our memories. You will never be forgotten. I know you would have been a wonderful father, husband and at whatever you decided would make you the happiest in life. Thank you for teaching me in life and death James, the importance of being happy in life and of friends and family. In many wyas, I think we were very similar in high school and later on and it makes me happy and sad at the same time to realize this. James, I have and will always respect you. Rest in peace and know how much you are loved. Thank you for your guidance. Love, Caitlyn.

Diane, Peter&Jessica / From: Donna, Max & Fanny Karpman 6/6/2006 - - I have thought of your family and your beautiful son James often throughout this , your first year, of having to go on without him. I wanted to let you know that our family sends love to you all. May all of the love you have recieved this past year continue to sustain your family. The way that your family is living with this tragedy is an inspiration and humbling to us all. With much love and respect to you Diane, Peter, Jessica and to your precious son James. With sincere compassion, Donna, Max & Fanny Karpman

James, Family and Friends / From: Erin Roberts 6/6/2006 - - I know that I should have taken the time to write this a long time ago. However, I think I was being selfish and needed the time to realize what actually happened and the great loss that a wonderful community felt. I knew James years back in high school through the leadership program. James was the high light of many meetings and conferences. The loss of James will never settle with me because he was such a wonderful, exciting, and brilliant soul. He brought smiles to so many people, whether it be during the meetings, conferences, sports or just walking down the hall in school. I remember the days that I would walk down the halls of Hudson High and James seemed to jump out anywhere just to say hi or make someone laugh. To be honest I did not remember today until I opened my agenda and saw that it is the anniversary of his death. When seeing this my emotions went soring as they did last year. But the difference is that I have taken more time to read what others have said and what they were feeling. My hearts go out to you, his family, and friends that knew him longer then I did. I know that I have feeling sadness and I knew James a long time ago, I could not imagine what everyone that had a greater connection to him must be feeling. To Mr. Ratcliffe, I read the eulogy this morning that you gave at the funeral and I have to commend you on having such a beautiful and great relationship with you family and community. But the biggest message that I would like to tell you is that I have so much respect for you when you said that the teams that tried to help James were not at fault. In these situations it is easy to try to find someone to blame but you would not have it, and that is the greatest feeling. I am proud to say that I am from Hudson, I think that I use the fact that I am from Hudson at least once a day. That is because of the respect that you have shown towards others, the love that the community has shown to you and or family. Hudson is such a great community that yes, everyone knows eveyone else's business, but that allows us to be so close knit. That is the characteristic that I mention the most when talking about Hudson. I moved from Hudson two years ago, but when thinking of James, I remember all of the good times and why I love and miss Hudson so darn much. To everyone that I have ever met in Hudson, thank you for the wonderful pexperiences that you have given me, and when thinking of the town and James I can only be fill with pride. I think that is the reason why I felt that I should finally say James I miss you and think of you often, and to his family my heart goes out to you, and his friends, I know it is not easy but remember the way that James used to make you laugh, because frankly he was darn good at it.

Jessica,Diane & Peter / From: Linda McPhee(Zambon) 6/6/2006 - - A man of courage is also full of faith. *Cicero God bless you and give you comfort & peace. With love, Linda

James / From: an old friend 6/6/2006 - - i miss you alot james, especially today.......i cant believe a year has passed, it feels like just yesterday! watch over your family, friends and firefighters today - they need you the most right now. miising you.........love always.

Jess / From: Lyndsay 6/7/2006 - - I just wanted to let you know that you and your family are still in my thoughts and my heart.

James / From: Stephie 6/7/2006 - - Jimmy, we all had a beer for you last night at the yacht club - I know you would have liked it... beers and cheers... Still missing you every day, but I know that you are watching over all of us, keeping us safe. I'm sending you a hug.... stephie

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 6/8/2006 - - Story of an old soul… Perhaps this is a good time to share something healing, lighter, funny and at the same time a thought provoking deep view into James Ratcliffe that some of you may have heard before but many haven’t… I have often pondered the universe and still marvel at how a baby spider is born instinctively knowing how to spin a web and catch food, survive to reproduce and propagate itself without assistance, yet a human child appears to many of us as a helpless mostly blank canvas to be filled in as life goes by…I have come to believe that in addition to our DNA genetics, we somehow must carry into each of our own lives something that defines some deepest parts of our very soul, some preparation for what might come ahead in life…When James was a baby, barely two years old, he lost weight to the chagrin of our doctors and ourselves. Born robust and healthy at over nine pounds we were worried as he became a skinny bony toddler for a period… In the end, after many tests and examinations, nothing was wrong with his health, I myself was a skinny kid too for some time as was Diane, and we grew out of it. In the end, it was mainly that James didn’t want to give up his bottle and eat significant solid food… I remember sitting, trying to feed him dinner one day in his high chair and treating him like a tiny adult, negotiating with him, trying to get James to accept that he would one day have to become a “big boy” and eat “big boy food” because we all grow up and daddy, mommy and Jessica don’t have bottles. I continued this rational explanation for a while, wondering if we’d ever get through to him as he sucked enthusiastically on his bottle and simply looked me right in the eyes. Suddenly, James took the bottle from his mouth and said firmly and clearly: “I don’t want to be a big boy, I want to be an old baby”… All I could do was laugh out loud and say: “So do I buddy, so do I”… Think for a while about the thought and deeper meanings of that profound statement from the mouth of a child who had only recently learned to talk… Where does a two year old get such a complete, simple, concisely worded, yet tremendously deep view into what is basically the essence of the human male mentality?…From that point forward, I firmly believed that James had somehow been here before, or that he had been somehow gifted before birth with much knowledge and insight into the ways of the world he would be born into. James seemed to have much of life figured out before he arrived here and grew from there...Perhaps we all have this type of past knowledge and wisdom inside if we could only find a way or take the time to quiet the background noise of our lives and listen more carefully to our inner souls… We always thought that James was the very best of the kindest and gentlest of laughing smiling caring old souls delivered to us in an incredibly happy young body. James never disappointed any of us in that vision of him, in his life and in his death. I’m sure that his soul’s next journey will be even more exciting and wonderful, bringing immense happiness with it again. I do hope we all catch up to James someday; the immensity of what he left behind here for us after twenty years still absolutely amazes me… If you have stories of your own that provide insight into James, please share them with all of us who loved James. Love to all who loved James, Peter Ratcliffe

Peter / From: Rosemarie Jutras 6/10/2006 - - Peter, upon reading the latest message you wrote, I have to tell you of the time our son Dru was at Katimavik in his 8th grade. His mentor was James. When I picked Dru up on the final evening, I asked him what the best part of the whole two days was...it was when the group sat in a big circle and it was James turn to speak of his feelings on the time spent together at Katimavik and James began to cry while he spoke about the team he headed up and the time they spent together. He spoke clearly and deeply about each member of his team. This would be James' last year to go to Camp and you could see these words were not the words of a sixteen year old boy. Yes, I believe James was an old soul. That moment is etched in Dru's mind forever. James showed the group that its OK to cry in public and to share your feelings and to tell people how great they are and how they can change the world one kind jesture at a time.

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 6/16/2006 - - Today, June 16, 2006, is the James Ratcliffe Memorial Golf Tournament hosted by Como Golf club. Como Golf Club came forward within weeks of James' death with this great idea for a charity event. Our family would like to thank Como Golf Club for the incredible hard work of the members as well as the inconvenience to club members for this charitable undertaking. Como will cover only their minimum costs and not even take greens fees from the money raised, allowing the maximum contribution raised to flow to local Hudson charities of our choice. The Hudson Volunteer Firefighters have also contributed very significantly to the fundraising by selling raffle tickets prior to the event and many will play golf. We are thrilled to have this event happen, it is a very positive legacy to celebrate a very positive life. James loved golf, starting with the Junior program at Como at age ten for a couple of summers. It was a wonderful start to years of enjoyment from golf, especially the great times he spent over five summers with his grandfather Yvon Guindon and Yvon's golfing buddies. The most exciting part of those summers golfing with Grandpa's friends was learning choice selections of the French language that were apparently overlooked in the teaching at Ecole Primaire Harwood. The rest of our family are beginners at golf, still exploring the most frustrating parts of hittting a small ball with a funny stick. Obviously the Scottish were playing a joke on the world and the world bit, the Scots are still laughing. James was a natural golfer who especially enjoyed the social aspect of spending time playing and laughing with good friends. We're very happy to have these positive legacies benefit the community needs and also to remind us that the gentle ripples of a life lived so well can continue forever in the right quiet pond and the help of many caring people. FORE!!!!

Diane, Peter & Jess, / From: The Wright Family 6/20/2006 - - Our thoughts are with you, again, at this time ......every life is a miracle that changes the world. Though life is not as it was before, and never will be again, our memories are much richer, than if love had never been. Our family keeps you close in our hearts and our thoughts, as many others also do. With each memory, let our hearts be reminded, that nothing can take away the beauty that we have all known. We pray that God will send you peace and hope and lots of laughs, as we think of those fun and funny thoughts of James. Summer has begun, and with that, thought of the HYC with Jenn and Laura.....

Peter,Diane,Jessica / From: Aunt CAthy 9/11/2006 - - After seeing the clip on the news last night I had to view this site to remember what a special and wonderful family member and young man James was. I think about him everyday in my thoughts and wish that time could be turned back and that day in June could be reversed. But, I just hope and pray that James is safe and resting in peace in a wonderful place that we will all be joining him in time. I know that he is sadly missed by the three of you as well as many many others. I am proud of how you have handled this time in your lives. Love you all. Love Always, Cathy

the ratcliffe's / From: reid 9/30/2006 - - i never dreamt it could be this way. i've lost any chance for me to say. to say that i miss you. to say that i love you. will someone please tell me i'm ok. no one was prepared for what was to come. a life made of memories gone so young. now i am regretting all that i've done. but in my heart i kow that your with me all along...

James / From: a teacher 11/30/2006 - - There are few and far between like you James. Your smile radiated and your energy filled a room; every room. We are all far more fortunate than we realize. Your life reminds us of this everyday. You truly are an inspiration. You held firm to your beliefs and you made your own path. Nothing will ever change this or what you continue to mean to us.

All / From: Irene 12/5/2006 - - I can't be bothered with anything recently. It's not important. More or less nothing noteworthy going on right now, but I don't care. I've pretty much been doing nothing. Shrug.

Peter, Diane and Jessica / From: Aunt Cathy 12/18/2006 - - As Christmas approaches, you are in my thoughts and prayers as I know that we all wish that James were here to spend the holidays with you. He remains in our hearts, memories and thoughts always remembered as the wonderful person he was. He is and always will be missed by me. I love all of you and wish you peace as you get through another Christmas season. Love to you CAthy

Everyone / From: Peter Ratcliffe 12/21/2006 - - We'd be glad to see any of James' friends over the holidays. Time doesn't make days any easier, but we enjoy seeing those who were closest to James and talking about James. My column for Christmas week fits well here, so I've posted it as my Christmas message for all to ponder.

Weekly Itch #11
Published Hudson/St. Lazare Gazette December 20, 2006

Title: The gift of today

Charity and helping others is the purest and most timeless beauty of both love and life itself.

Except for wonderful time spent with family and friends and turkey dinner enjoyed to the point of personal stupidity and pain, Christmastime is not my favourite part of the year.

Marketers seeking profit have long ago hijacked what I see as the true spirit of Christmas. Intense media bombards us with endless messages having nothing to do with the fundamental meanings and messages of Christmas. The commercial background noise telling us what we need and how to celebrate our own holiday is deafening.

In some perversion of holiday spirit, this year’s shortage of a hot new video game became a wave of unconscionable profiteering and crime. All so that a few might possess this game months before others could. That game will likely be in stock everywhere by March, but this pre-Christmas frenzy is gross and disgusting. That there were people to participate and feed this materialistic frenzy is a scary symptom of something deeply wrong in some lives.

Parents on limited budgets get talk radio advice on how to prepare their children for the inevitable disappointment the kids face when they don’t get everything they’ve asked for. Those who have less are wrongly made to feel that they are less.

I’ve come full circle to realize that the noise, confusion, materialism and other things that I don’t like about Christmastime aren’t part of a real Christmas after all.

I don’t need or want anything material. I’m impossible to shop for and can’t even list anything that I might want. Losing one of the most valuable and joyous parts of my life, I’ve been given the opportunity to explore, confront and learn what is truly valuable to me. Conclusion: Things are dead last; family and friends are way out in first.

Seeking to understand loss has caused me to identify and celebrate the greatest gifts of my life: We created, nurtured and so deeply loved a truly wonderful loving son. Not just for one single day. It will never seem long enough, but we were truly blessed with him for over twenty years. We have helped create a daughter who is every bit as wonderful too. Priceless gifts.

The only wish I want for Christmas is both free and priceless. It is under appreciated and often taken for granted. It’s something I’ll never get enough of, already had lots of and hope to have much more of. I wish for it every night and, and so far, I get my wish every morning. My nightly wish: I want another day tomorrow to experience and enjoy this gift of life.

As we awaken each morning, we are gifted another day to do with as we please. We can fritter it away on useless or destructive activities if we choose. We can seek material or spiritual wealth. We can seek knowledge, meaning, love, or companionship to turn our dreams to reality. We can be positive or negative, good or evil, angry or happy, greedy or generous, deep or shallow, hateful or loving. We can grow or diminish by our own actions. We can go nowhere, somewhere or anywhere. It is our own choice how we use this gift.

Christmas, or whichever holiday you celebrate is just that simple blessing of one more day. What makes any single day exceptional is how we choose to use it and the feelings that we can experience that day. Perhaps the true magic of Christmas is that it creates and sets aside a well defined opportunity for special time to share joy with family and friends.

I will choose to celebrate this Christmas like each other day of my life: I’ll bask in and enjoy the unimaginable wealth of being alive today to share the love of family and friends.

I hope you join me and celebrate your own lives daily. Merry Christmas.

James family / From: Douglas Ratcliffe (Scotland) 1/13/2007 - - I was just doing some searching on the name Ratcliffe and came across your website for James. It is a touching tribute to such a fine looking young man. I never knew him, but know of all the good that he would have done for others in the line of duty. They are all heros. I just had to let you know I was here. God Bless.

The Ratcliffes / From: Jenn 2/12/2007 - - Just thinking of James and your family tonight in the wake of the two tragic car accidents that occurred within the last week. So sad to hear that another family has been devastated by such a preventable cause. I hope you're doing well... thinking of you!

The Ratcliffes / From: Sarah Tuck 2/16/2007 - - I just discovered this site through that new internet fad called "Facebook" - and I am really touched by reading people's messages and especially the one posted by Mr. Ratcliffe this time last year. James comes into my thoughts often. My memories of James are as a kid, when I used to come over to play with Jessica - I especially recall his energy and fervour. Love to you all -Sarah

James / From: Flip 3/22/2007 - - Happy Birthday James, I miss you more than i can say Love always

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 3/22/2007 - - Today would have been James' 22nd birthday and birthdays were always a big thing for James. The loss is forever immense and imponderable, the challenge of seeking acceptance daunting, and it remains hard to find laughter and joy that was so naturally a part of our lives.... In memory of his birthday, please take some time today to reflect on how fortunate we all were to have known James and find one small thing where you might aspire to be more like James to improve your own lives and the world around you. Oh, and it can't involve drinking more or partying more.

James' Family and Friends / From: Laura Di Genova 3/22/2007 - - I only knew James through school, I remember he was a year older than I was and at the time was dating Alex Olliver. Only good things were to be told of James and I always knew he was a very good person, even though we had a hi and bye relationship. I only wish I could of gotten to know him alittle bit more. Rest in Peace James.. you will always be in our hearts xox

James / From: Laura DiGenova 3/22/2007 - - Happy Birthday James Rest In Peace Miss seeing your smiling face! xox

Peter,Diane and Jess / From: The Cassidys 3/22/2007 - - Trevor and Josie are here with us for dinner to-night and we all want you to know that we are thinking of you and as always remembering James. We won't ever forget. We send our love.

The Ratcliffes / From: Flip 6/6/2007 - - I'm thinking of you all today. Love always Flip xox

Peter, Diane & Jessica / From: Dawn Croydon 6/6/2007 - - Everyday is still hard. But today we are not alone in our thoughts. May we find strength in our shared thoughts and prayers. Peter, Diane and Jessica I and the members of HFD are thinking of you today and always.

James / From: Madison 6/6/2007 - - Hey James...I've been hanging out with these French people lately, and every time they say the word "rigolo" I want to look up at you and yell "I told you so!" I know that's the stupidest thing, but it's that sort of thing that just kills me. 2 years and I can't get my head around it. I miss you.

Ratcliffe Family / From: Sue Denis 6/6/2007 - - To: The Ratcliffe Family, Friends, HFD and To My Daughter Janine In Loving Memory of James
Every day, in some small way,
Memories of you come our way.
Though absent, you are ever near,
Still missed, still loved, and very dear.
Forever In Our Hearts!!

Friends / From: Peter Ratcliffe 6/6/2007 - - Fatherly advice for today: As hard as it might be, share today with best friends sharing memories of James. Walk into every room with a huge James smile celebrating James' memory as he would have wanted you to. To those who didn't know James, please know that you missed someone exceptional. To those who knew and loved James, you have learned the pain of losing someone exceptional who loved all of you. The more you love others, the more you hurt when they are taken from us, but love deeply anyway. The pain is a reminder of how well you loved. Never stop looking for ways to live more, love more and learn more, you will become ever more valuable to yourself and the world around you. May you all find peace and happiness in life

James / From: Vanessa 6/6/2007 - - You are so missed. Hugs and kisses for Peter, Diane and Jess. Love you always James.

Peter, Diane & Jessica / From: Linda McPhee(Zambon) 6/6/2007 - - You are all in my thoughts and prayers........always.

James / From: Leigh 6/7/2007 - - Spent the day yesterday thinking of you, and remembering everything I can about you.69140 You have given me the ablitliy to love more deeply than I ever expected I could and no matter how much time goes by I will always remember what you meant to this world and me. I am still learning things from you, thank you for that.. and everything.

Peter,Diane,Jess / From: Carolyn 9/13/2007 - - I just wanted to say that I am always learning from James and still not a day goes by that the thought of him doesnt make me smile. I hope you are all hanging in there as best as may be. Your always in my thoughts. Love - Carolyn C

James / From: Melissa 10/20/2007 - - James, I've been thinking about you and missing you so much lately...I think about you every day but more now than ever before. I think it's because I'm in Ottawa now and I keep wishing that you were still going to school here so I could see you...I want that more than anything, to see you. I just hope you know how much I miss you and that you were a big part of my life. I can't really think of many times in my life when you weren't there and I think that's why I can't get used to this feeling. I guess I just wanted to say I miss you. Love Melissa

James / From: Elias 12/16/2007 - - James, all I can say is I am blessed to have meet you. A real honor. A true inspiration. Thank you my friend.

James / From: Vanessa 1/15/2008 - - HI James. I really felt you around this week for some reason, so I wanted to say thank you...

All of James' Family / From: Peter Neilley 3/19/2008 - - Heart-felt thoughts to you all. Some-how the pain never seems to go away, but the memories are still there too. On the other side, he will be waiting for you all. God bless, and thanks for sharing this fine young man's life with us.

James / From: Flip 3/22/2008 - - Hey James, I just wanted to stop in and say Happy Birthday. I miss you so much. Sending you a hug. Love always Flip xoxo

Everyone / From: Peter Ratcliffe 6/6/2008 - - Three years ago today and still hard to believe, understand or accept that life deals such cruel blows to those who least deserve death. The great goodness in James continues as happy ripples in the reflecting pond of our lives and James continues to make people who knew him better. To some those ripples he left may fade and get smaller with time. Those who knew James are most sensitive to and understanding of the potential for greatness we lost that night. They take the time to add their tears of rememberance to the ripples and share happy memories hoping that James' lessons may never fade from our hearts and minds.

The Ratcliffe family / From: Sarah Clayton 6/6/2008 - - I didn't know James personally, but, being a hudsonite from birth (now living in St. Lazare) I knew of him from HYC and of course follow your column, Peter, every week. I think often about your son (and brother). Of how, in the blink of an eye, it could be anyone's son who suffered this tragedy. I have a 7 yr old son, and cannot even begin to imagine what you all go through everyday. I pray that you are all holding up the best that you can today, on this 3rd anniversary of the passing of James. I am happy you have bright things to focus on in the near future. You must both be so proud of your daughter. Peace be with all all of you

James / From: Dawn 6/6/2008 - - James I still (unfortunetly) remember 3yrs ago like it was yesturday and still miss you today as much as I have for the past 3 yrs. Words still cannot express how I feel.... Some days 'the pond' that your father speaks of are a little calmer than other days but today is sure not one of those days. Please continue to look after the boys as you have successfully done and most of all be there for your mom, dad and Jess. Miss you big guy, Dawn and your bros at HFD

James / From: Lenora 6/6/2008 - - I'm thinking of you today James... we miss you tremendously today, and always.

The Ratcliffes / From: Flip 6/6/2008 - - My thoughts are with you today and always. Sending you all a hug. Take care Love always Flip

La famille Ratcliffe / From: Dominique Fortier 6/7/2008 - - Bonjour Diane,Peter et Jessica, Je voulais tout simplement vous dire que je pense souvent à vous et à James .

James / From: Vanessa 6/7/2008 - - Hi James, I know you can still see us and hear us and feel us. I hope you help guide us all to make the right choices and help remind us how important friends and family are and encourage us to cherish each other even in hard times. You are missed by all of us, and I am happy you are eternally present in my life.

Ratcliffe Family / From: Lex 6/7/2008 - - Hey James & family, I've been thinking about you for the past month or so and have really felt your presence this week. It's been 3 years and I can remember your smile as if I saw it last yesterday. Remembering all the good times with Janine and our floor.. All my love to your family.

Mr. and Mrs. Ratcliffe / From: Kevin 10/4/2008 - - I read your article in the Fenton Fire Magazine. As a water rescue specialist and firefighter in Calgary I appreciated your article. You care for others and their families. It is no wonder you inspired your children to do heroic things. My prayers are for your family tonight. God bless.